Very Not Cool
My poor neighbor, Sweety* (names changed 'cause I always change the names, you know that), she's young, cute, and just a little thing, and all these ASSHOLES that live around here are giving her crap. She's got people just showing up at her apartment and kinda bullying their way in, people making her nervous on the streets, and NOW some random guy "from the building next door "(he says) just SHOWS UP, and stands outside her door. We don't have peepholes or chains on our doors, just our knob locks and bolt locks. She would look under her door, and see his feet. She could hear him come up, but he didn't even knock or say anything. Now, I gave her pepper spray after the first guy bothered her, and she had that out and called the cops, and they took 20 minutes to show up! (the dispatcher didn't believe her, I think. "You're 19 and you live alone with your son?" she says) Worse, the guy was still there when the cops showed. I think they arrested him for something (unrelated) but damn, that's not cool! I wish she'd called me so I at least knew what was happening, she's literally across the hall from me.
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realy dumb idea BUT:
any chance she could have a pretend bf or two come visit her?
that way other guys will be less inclined to knock in - unexpectedly.
hope she finds a way
mebbe u galz cud invite her o'er sometimes?
im guessing ya already do..
damn. wish brightideas came more easily.
It's good you gave her pepper spray. Women need to stick together. My neighbor(across the hall) & I look out for each other. She is only about 20 & lives alone I am 'ahemm' much older but also alone. We have a good relationship built out of mutual respect.
alright
these r simply mah opinions, not gospel and i could be wrong in making these assumptions / listing these az facts.
Sweety will need more than pepperspray to ward off an army of losers, the kind of which seem to trail her.
i strongly suggest getting at least a peephole, but a special lock / bolt will do wonders not only for security but peace of mind.
the most secure bolt *in theory* iz the kind they used in medieval times...simple & effective.
which is simply one or more pieces of hardwood braced against the inside of a door, mounted on close-fitting hooks.
if she has the time and means, a self defense class would suffice. too many fake gurus out there who claim to teach "Unleash the Beast Within" classes..
but really unless its VERY specific circumstances +/ excessive force is necessary, ppl generally can get into more trouble than its worth practicing active aggression on every sorrysod that comes knockin'
also, keeping an innocuous looking device lying around the house, relatively easy to access for someone who knows where to look, for those situations when it getz bad enough / u need to stand ur ground and tell the person to leave.
i recommend a short stick, preferably bamboo / hardwood [[yes yes i know those hardwood jokes]] its easy to use, quick, and initially appears harmless.
when strong, feign weakness..when weak, feign strength. trust ah wasnt TOO preachy.
pz. she also might need 'simple' lessons in confidence
she's in a bad financial situation, she just had to sell some of her furniture to make rent, but we're helping her get a job too. Bean and I grew up fighting brothers and bullies, so we're passing on what we know. I also gave her a piece of wood (great, now I'm gonna giggle everytime that... ya know what? I can't even finish that sentence. dammit. look what you made my brain do ;) )with some nails in that had previously comprised some of our apartments "security system" ( had a window w/ a broken frame, that made it harder to push in and then stabbed anyone trying to climb thru unless they knew it was there... Bean didn't know D: ). Also, she has a butcher knife, but I'd rather she keep ppl at arms length and not kill anyone...
k, I'm babbling, so I'll excuse myself
world iz in a bad financial situation @present, unfortunately.
the wood-thingy is SO twisted its not even funny ::laugh:: kay, so it is.
perhaps one day i'll relate the tale that smackz of wood and other finely crafted idiocies...
but that'll take lotsa balls, alcohol or insanity
the one w/nails in it is pretty hardcore. glad u dont approve of her causing permanent harm lest it becomes a need ((flashy grinne))
the windowz enuff to freak most anyone out. Bean knows how to navigate it safely, tho?
u babble too rarely.
just thought i'd get that out, too
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